Zoom Zoom Zoom

Every once in a while, not too often mind you, but now and then, I get in a zoomin' groove. Everything has gone right today. My house is spanking clean (except for the master shower) and Ben has been ABA'ed for the day and the girls are happily playing in the playroom and everything is perfect. Rob is coming home tomorrow and I'm so proud that I have a clean neat semi organized home to show him. I've decluttered a bunch of my cabinets and though I have tons more to do, I took 3 boxes to the Thrift Shop yesterday. I am so psyched and happy right now, I must keep the momentum going. Now if I can only channel my energies into writing!! Ben was picked up by a transportation service guy this morning at 7:05 am and stayed at school until 1 when I picked him up. Cool beans! First Katherine, now Ben, and next Caroline.... it's off to school we go .... Hi Ho, hi ho .....

Autism Commercials

I was watching some show on CNN the other night and lo and behold, I saw something I've never seen before ... twice! Autism commercials! There was a little boy being strapped into his car seat by his mother and it said : Chances of your child being in a fatal accident: 1 in 25,000. Chances of your child being autistic: 1 in 166. Then it gave the site Autismspeaks.org. Then the other commercial had a little girl dancing and singing to twinkle twinkle little star and it said: Chances of your child starring in a Broadway production: 1 in 12,000. Chances of having autism 1 in 166. Wow! I felt validated! These commercials are for all those people out there who have no idea what autism is or how it's invading our children. I've actually met a few people who were like what- you mean he likes to do art? Autistic, not artistic. :-) Though some autistic ARE artistic, Ben isn't one of them - yet.

Buying New PJs

Before I go on about the new PJs, let me say that I met with Casey today and also I met with Elizabeth, Ben's new teacher at Headstart. Both meetings went very well, and I'm excited to have Ben start the year at his old school. Never thought I'd say that, but I was impressed by her and I hope he'll do well there. Right now there's only three in his class, but she said there's 3 more coming down the pipeline. Who knows when they'll get there. Anyhow she seems like a person who isn't afraid to speak up when things aren't right, so I hope it'll all work out. Casey seemed happy with the way things are going with Ben, and gave me some good advice I can surely use. I'll be meeting with her once a week now on a regular basis so I can keep up with all his ABA stuff. On to the Pajamas. I find it a little depressing to buy Ben pajamas and I had to do so yesterday. Why, you may ask, could buying pajamas depress me? Perhaps it's just over sensitivity on my part. When you go to the store, in this case Kohl's, to buy pjs for little boys it's almost impossible to find anything that isn't intensely decorated in cartoon characters, something most little boys of almost 5 years old would love. There's Spongebob, Scooby Doo, Superman, Nintendo, Dinosaurs, Toy Story, Carz, Thomas the Train, you get the gist. Ben could care less about any of it and that's the sad part. Maybe he will one day, but as for now, he couldn't even begin to sit through a movie like Carz, much less actually like it. I ended up buying Nintendo Mario PJs (on sale) for a kid that may never play nintendo. He doesn't even know what a nintendo is. I bought Thomas the train winter pjs for a kid who couldn't care less about the Thomas the train set he has, and only plays with it under great pressure from an adult making him do it. What ever happened to cute little fire truck and space pajamas? Gone with his babyhood I guess. *sigh*

Potty Training Aborted!!

I had to abandon potty training Ben yesterday because I simply decided for my own mental health, I cannot do it by myself. I need Rob here to clean and cook and care for the girls, or else putting Ben on the potty every 5 minutes is very stressful and I'm not a person that handles stress particularly well. He did show some sucesses on the second day and seemed to be getting the hang of it, but I couldn't continue it until I have some help. Doing it by myself is crazy and not fair to any of the children. Katherine got her first grade assignment today and has been put in a straight first grade classroom, not the Kindergarten/First Grade class like I had hoped. They had one, but they just didn't put her in it. Go figure. The girls managed to get one of their hamsters stuck - really stuck - in one of Ben's toys today and I spent a good 45 minutes trying to get it out. I finally did, but I was not a happy camper. Still, I managed to get a little bit of ABA work done with Ben. We worked for about an hour on task completion, gross motor imitiation and balance, verbal imitation (he's getting pretty good at saying "Mi" for Gummi - sometimes he even says "Numi") , touching requested objects, matching numbers in several formats, etc. I need to do ABA every single day with him. I guess I'll just have to put on a movie for the girls tomorrow and Sunday so I can do some work with him. He's been super stimmy lately but he worked well today despite that. I am so psyched that his preschool classroom right now has only 3 kids in it!! That is so awesome, but I know the school system is going to try to put more in. Hopefully he'll get some nice attention for a little while. Hope his teacher's good. I've been researching Air Force Bases lately since Rob's next assignment will be coming up shortly after Christmas. I want to be sure we have our best options for Ben and the family down on Rob's preference list. I'm very intrigued by Offut AFB, near Omaha, Nebraska because apparently, the schools are awesome. The base looks pretty cool too, nice and clean, with a lake on base on good officer housing. I've also heard great things about New Jersey's services, though the base in NJ, McGuire, doesn't look quite as nice. I think Virginia is out for us, though. Apparently, they don't have much in the Norfolk area for autism. California and Texas are still good possibilities, since we know we like them. So as you can see, I've been keeping busy. Two weeks until Rob comes back. Yay!

A New Groove

Hello. Thanks to Mom and MJ for making sure I was okay after the last post. Sometimes I get frustrated, but lately it's been going better. Hopefully I didn't just jinx today! I'm going to take Ben to the pool while K and C have swimming lessons and I'm not sure if he's going to have a fit or not. They have a running waterfall at the pool, and that freaked him out last time and we couldn't stay long. I'm looking forward to the pool party for Dad's birthday on Sunday, and so are the girls. I have no idea how Ben will react. I'm trying to be optimistic but he's been unpredictable lately. I, however, seem to be getting into a new groove. The first week was really hard with Rob gone, but I'm getting used to it, and feeling better all around. My mother's helper certainly was a good idea. It's so nice to have K and C occupied and not fighting. Ben has passed his matching picture to picture ABA program, and flew through matching color card to color card, so now he's perfecting matching numbers. Visual tasks are definitely his strength. We're still working on cutting, which he doesn't like to do, and holding the crayon in the correct grip. He's imitating about 4 different actions when I ask him to, and is very occasionally responding to my request that he say "ME" for "Gummi". I don't think he's really made the connection that saying a specific thing is a way to get things. But since he made the connection with picture exchange and signing, hopefully he'll make this connection as well. I'll keep trying. I've got nothing to lose. AUGUST 15th - after we get back - that's the day Ben is going to start potty training. I'm a little scared! What if he can't do it? Will I have the ability to follow through with it? I would love to be rid of diapers, but can I count on a kid who can't talk and likes to eat his picture cards to tell me when he has to go?